The court finds: this is a textbook unequal opportunity-cost structure. Defendant has no legal obligation to follow plaintiff, but the absence of any alternative-construction effort constitutes insufficient relational investment.
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Accept the Zurich offer. Set a 6-month observation window: does defendant proactively present any executable bridging plan? If not, the relationship has lost its definition of "shared future".
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His worry is fair. What's not fair is that he hasn't proposed ONE alternative — Swiss job search, 1-year trial, anything. Refusal without alternatives is not love.
I gave up NYC for my ex 5 years ago. He cheated 18 months later. Career windows close permanently. Men don't.
3 years of LDR is hard. 3 years of "I sacrificed for him again" is harder. The former is a phase, the latter is your bone structure.
I work in the same sector. Leaving at 32 and returning at 35 IS genuinely brutal. His fear is legitimate.
"I support you" without bearing any cost = the cheapest currency on earth. Real support shows up in plans, not statements.
You've given up two before. He's never given up anything. If this time is also you giving up, it stops being a relationship and becomes a comfort subscription he pays nothing for.
"Comfort subscription". I sat with that for an hour. That's what I've been signing up for.
You're right. He never said "let me check Swiss positions". Just "I'm staying."