匿名情感陪审团。

我朋友把房子整租后转给我（02 年生）。后来 Y 哥说他妹妹手术急用钱让我让他借住几个月，房租 AA。结果他借东西不打招呼、多次带女生回我家在我床上发生关系、被我撞见还反咬我造谣他。950 房租拖了 3 个月到我搬走还没还清。最离谱的是他在外面到处说我天天带男人回家、有脏病、不戴套、谁都行。我有银行流水、有房东可以作证，但已经被他黄谣到不敢出门。一共已经被他坑过 6 个人。这种我该不该直接上 J 局？

We explicitly said "no V-Day gifts this year, too much consumerist nonsense". I held up my end. Came home Feb 14, there's a bouquet on the table. "I just felt like it". I felt set up. Now I look like the cold one and he looks like the romantic. We had a deal. Why am I the one apologising?

在一起 2 年，吵架超过 5 次。每次只要我提出问题，他不分场合直接拿钥匙摔门出去酒吧到凌晨 3 点回。我打他电话不接，发消息不回。回来第二天什么都不解释，问起就说"我需要冷静"。

我们都是新加坡人，订婚后开始算婚礼。我父母传统，认为男方该出大部分（酒席、戒指、蜜月）。他说"我家也没那么多钱，AA 才公平"。预算 6 万。我妈知道后炸了，说"那这婚不结也罢，没见过未来老公让女方家出婚礼一半的"。男友说我妈"封建"。两边都不让步。我夹中间一周没睡好。我自己其实觉得 AA 没什么，但我妈说这是"对方家诚意问题"。我现在到底该听谁的？

Together 4 years. We applied for BTO last year together — picked Punggol, signed all the forms together, both sets of parents met. Last week the ballot came through. Three days later he tells me he's "feeling overwhelmed, not sure he's ready". I asked: money? job? family? He says no, just feelings. We have to sign in 3 weeks. Backing out means losing the flat plus a 5-year wait minimum for the next ballot. He wants "more time". My head says "give him time", my gut says "he's already gone".

在一起 2 年，他手机从来不离身，密码也不告诉我。我自己手机一直放桌上他可以随便看。上周他在卫生间手机响了，我去拿出来给他递，他冲出来抢，说"你不要乱碰我手机"。当时我什么都没看到，但我心里很难受。第二天我说"我想看一次你的微信，看完就放心了"，他炸了，说"如果是这样这段关系也没意义了，你这是控制狂"。我现在每天都失眠：是不是真的我太过分？但他这反应——清白的人会这样吗？